Anal sex is probably one of the “must try” things for many guys I know – straight and gay men alike. For most women though, not so much.

In this article, RandyFox explores the reasons why guys seem to be fascinated with it so much. We talked to men to really understand why. This article also has tips and other stuff that you might want to know when it comes to anal play.

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Why Men Like Anal Sex

Bustle asked some men (receivers and givers of anal sex)what they really think about anal sex and here is what they said:

‘It feels like pooping in reverse, but in the most pleasurable way.’ – Jon, 24, Receiving

‘Since the prostate is the pleasure center, you feel really good and really aroused.’ – Dan, 21, Receiving

‘If you're aroused and relaxed, then it feels amazing.’ – Kyle, 22, Receiving

‘The prostate is the male G-spot, so it feels analogous to getting touched in the most sensitive part of my penis.’ – Miguel, 20, Receiving

‘It feels deep and filling and good.’ – Dmitri, 21, Receiving

‘It's tighter. Not as soft [as vaginal sex]. It feels unreal. It feels like a step above sex so it makes me feel more dominant’– Tanner, 20, Giving

‘It doesn't feel that much different than vaginal sex, except tighter and not as well lubricated.’ – James, 23, Giving

‘It feels amazing. It's much tighter and there's more friction. Also, I'm a very dominant person and there's something naturally transgressive about it, which makes it hotter.’ – Lee, 25, Giving

‘Anal isn't that great. It almost feels too tight. But I like the accomplishment of getting a girl to do it. It's like the ultimate control — it's some next level sh*t.’ – Sean, 20, Giving

‘It just feels better in general because of the tightness, but for me the dominance is an added bonus. It's like doggy style but I'm responsible for more of the work.’ – Jake, 22, Giving

‘The texture's different. It feels more slippery. I don't think its any better than vaginal sex, but there's something taboo about it that makes it hot. It's just something you do to be able to say you did it.’ – Elli, 26, Giving

Different guys, different orientations, different experiences, but one thing is common: they’re into it. In sum, here are five (5) reasons why men really like or want to try anal sex:

1. It feels similar to yet completely different than vaginal sex. It is there, ready for the taking. It taps into the curious you, as if begging to be explored. The only thing that stops you is the thought that it shouldn’t be used in the way that you are thinking about using it. But who dictates what is absolute when it comes to these things, right?

2. It is a novelty treat. It is not the common practice. Not everyone does it. It is not part of the regular menu. We got to admit, had anal sex been part of the regular sexy time, it would not hold as much appeal. It is just going to be, well, ordinary.

3. It is taboo but it is not exactly super weird. It feels naughty and is raunchy. But it is not a crime. You get my drift? It’s like scotch at ten in the morning. It’s like too early in the day to start but if you are feeling rebellious, it feels so good.

4. Not everyone has done it. Think Mount Everest – it’s there for everyone who wants to climb. It is ready and always available but not everyone has done it. It’s like an exclusive secret club.

5. It’s a status symbol. Have you ever tried escargot? Or caviar, maybe? Sometimes it’s like that. Some people think it’s gross but it’s a delicacy for the rich just because it is expensive. In the same way, some guys want to try anal sex not because it is their most absolute favourite thing to do but just so they can say that they have done it.

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Tips If You Want to Try Anal Sex

Here are some tips for everyone who wants to delve into the world of anal play.

1. The Basics: Always use lube, never put something in your mouth or vagina that was in your butt, and butt plugs are your friend.

2. May sure you are feeling relaxed and supported. Anal sex, and sex in general for that matter, requires safety, comfort, and trust.

3. Establish a safe word.

4. Ask for permission and be respectful to your partner’s body.

5. Try it with a dildo first. Make use of anal plugs and anal training kits.

6. Prepare a ‘resting station’ for any toys or lubricant that you might be using. Not only will you have a designated ‘safe’ spot for the toys when you are not using them yet, it will also give you more leeway to enjoy the experience without stressing over the little things.

7. Stimulate around the anal opening first.

8. Don’t neglect the clit.

9. Start small. Don’t go immediately to rapid-fire movement.

10. Communication is key.