Sex is an important aspect in romantic relationships. It’s not always the first priority and some can do without it especially at the start of the relationship, but eventually, especially when already married, sex is a huge factor. Here are some tips for you and your partner for a better sex life.

Evaluate How Important Sex is to you both

Sex is more than just the explosive climax. It’s about feeling close to one another. It’s about intimacy. Thus, the first step should always be setting expectations and figuring out where both of you stand on the matter. Do you both want spontaneous sex? Passionate ones? How important is sex in relationship for each of you?

Whatever the expectations or your personal stand on it, it is best that your partner knows about it as well.

Be Open to Your Partner’s Needs

This goes for both of you. Sure, sex feels great and all that, but goes beyond your own pleasure. Accommodate your partner’s needs and your partner should do the same for you. Otherwise, this will get in the way of your relationship and will eventually affect other aspects of your lives.

Identify What You Want to Change

Once you both have had the talk, you will also be more open and receptive to each other’s wants and needs. It’s not always that your wants and needs align so most probably, you will have a discussion on what you both want to change and about the compromises that you both will make.

It could also be that you and your partner haven’t had the talk yet and there is a dry spell happening. If it’s this case, you both will have to identify the problem if you still want to salvage the relationship. Just make sure that the dry spell isn’t so long it becomes seasons or the relationship will really become irreparable. So, what is causing the lackluster or absence of love-making?

Learn to Love Your Kinks

Discuss your kinks with your partner. Who knows, it might also be exactly what they want as well. Don’t be embarrassed about it, we here at RandyFox are assuring you that fetishes are normal. Everyone has them albeit it’s not always the same for everybody. But hey, you won’t know until you and your partner have actually discussed things and have given it a try. If you want to a little BDSM to your play, you can start some ankle and wrist cuff restraints

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Try it in New Places

Sex and love-making doesn’t always have to be confined in the four walls of the bedroom. Try it on different parts of your house. Do it on the counter. Do it on the couch. You can even take it outside. Just make sure that it’s not anything illegal. Safety first, dear friends!

Masturbate Together

You will be surprised at how intimate doing this can be. Want your partner to know how you want things? Better alternative is to show them. Your partner can do the same too. Doing it together will give you both the opportunity to get to know each other better – at a very hot setting too.

Practice Spontaneity

Having a routine is okay. It means that you both know each other so well that you can kind of predict each other’s mood. However, adding spontaneity every once in a while into the mix can amp your level, like so much you won’t believe it. A little dash of excitement here and there will keep things interesting. It doesn’t always have to be something grand. A romantic getaway or a date night will work great. But spicing things up with lingerie, ticking off kama sutra positions or even doing it in other corners in your place can also do wonders.

Experiment with Toys

Sex toys are not just for solo play. A lot of them are made for couple use too. You will be amazed at the line of couple’s sex toys available in the market.

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Watch Porn with Your Partner

Choose a place you can watch porn videos. Just to be clear, porn and what happens in the videos should not be your barometer for your sex life. We all know there is a lot of production and lies that go into making these sex videos. But the very least, doing this can be a fun activity for you both and will give you the chance to get to know each other’s preferences.

Go to a Sex Party

Admittedly, this can be a little on the extreme side. You don’t have to if either of you are not comfortable. But if you both are open to the idea – and when I say this I mean that either of you are completely okay with the fact that you will be seeing other people and most probably be intimate with others – then that’s fine. A lot of married couples are into the lifestyle. The important thing always is that you both consent and are on the same page with this lifestyle.