A place where fantasies come to life. When porn is talked about, this is usually what comes to mind. But is it, really? Randy Fox compiled some confessions from porn stars on what it is really like behind the scenes.  

On motivation:

I was also driven by the potential sexual experiences. I had never had a one night stand or casual sex before and I wondered if I was missing anything. All of my sex before was part of a loving relationship with a boyfriend. I had fantasies that many girls probably think about but never expect or even want to fulfill. For me sex with guys who had a larger penis or sex with more than one guy and even having two guys inside of me at once were something I fantasized about at times but as a female, you can’t admit it or be considered a slut. I wanted to feel wanted and wanted to be submissive and let go for a while and yes, I wanted to have crazy sex to see what it was like with guys who had a lot of experience. And the last motivation for me was popularity on some level. To be the interesting or sexy girl and be the one that guys wanted since I never thought guys thought about me in that way. I was always the rich cute girl, the loner girl or quiet girl who had a cute body. I was never the sexy girl that guys wanted to have sex with. Not that I wanted to have sex with a lot of guys, but I wanted them to want me. As a young girl, being wanted and fitting in is so important.

 Nanma (NMC) Extravaganza Antonya Life-Life Sex Doll

On the notion that porn sex is not like real sex:

There were times the sex was just a job. But there were also scenes where it was incredibly sexual and fulfilling. I had real orgasms on several occasions but a lot of the scenes were more about capturing the elements the director wanted versus having a fulfilling sexual experience. I have heard some people say that all porn is fake and I can assure you, they are only half right. Some of it is very real with incredible feelings and reactions.

 

On porn sets:

A lot of porn these days is filmed not on a dedicated set, but in the apartments/condos/vacation homes of directors and other industry folks that all trade with each other, for more variety. This is characteristic of the ‘pro-mateur’ style which is stylistically shaped to appeal to people who like amateur porn, but actually involves paid actors and more professional camera equipment, to maintain the illusion that it’s the couple’s own home.

ZOLO Original Squeezable Vibrating Stroker 

Some things porn star Ely Darling would like people to know about porn:

That we undergo a rigorous testing protocol called the PASS system in which we are tested every two weeks for a whole panel of the best STD tests on the market. Porn stars have a lower incidence of HIV than the general population.

That we don’t get royalties from porn. It’s a one-shot deal with a decent day rate but after that we don’t see residuals. People often think we’re loaded and it couldn’t be farther from the truth for most of us.

That we have a trade/lobbyist organization called the Adult Performer Advocacy Committee which is in the process of formulating a “stamp of approval” for companies who follow the Producer Code of Conduct and pledge to maintain ethics in their business practices. Edit: full disclosure, I serve on the board of directors of this organization.

That there was a study about something called The Damaged Goods Hypothesis which debunks many of the stereotypes you may have about us.

- Ely Darling

 

On food in the set:

I did a non sex scene in a porn many moons ago. They had a craft service table set up with snacks; chips, soda, etc. Right when I got there one of the performers who had just finished a scene, still naked and sticky, walked over and grabbed a hand full of chips from the bowl. That’s when I learned to only eat crafty that was still wrapped.

 Pjur Superhero Prolonging Performance Spray

On lots and lots of Viagra and prolonging creams:

I’ve been a male porn actor for two years now, I’ve starred in some pretty professional stuff that went mainly to (Producer’s Note: I’ve redacted the name because it’s a known company). A porn video usually takes quite a bit longer to make than the video lasts. So even before we start the video, we do the picture shoot. This is done separately to the video and I have to get into all the positions we are going to do and stay still from 20 – 50 seconds, which is really fucking awkward, like no movement nothing. This is why I have to take Viagra before I get to work, it’s hard work staying hard. Also the girl usually has a ton of lubricant for the picture bit because it’s not really like sex.

The videos themselves are mostly smooth, but we sometimes stop to wipe sweat off or have a drink. What sometimes happened once or twice was that I popped too early into the video, and I had to take more Viagra and keep going because the shoot had to be finished within a certain time. That was really unpleasant, guys would know this that after you cum you have no more sexual drive for a while and stimulation is generally not so good.

After the shoot is done we go our ways, I’ve rarely spoke to the girls I worked with much because a lot of them are pretty broken and I’d avoid them if I didn’t have debts to pay. This being said I do enjoy my job most of the time, just not the girls afterwards. There have been a few pretty interesting girls but not many, I dated one for a few weeks but it didn’t last.