In the previous blog post, BDSM: A Quick Guide for Beginners, in an effort to help your BDSM transition a little easier, RandyFox put together the basics for your explorations. It helps BDSM novices have a better grasp of what BDSM is, the terms you need to know, the role of consent, and some tips to get you started.

Now that you feel more comfortable, it is now time to build your toys and equipment. First off, it cannot be emphasized enough that BDSM is centered on consent. In fact, there are two guiding principles that are followed – RACK which stands for risk-aware consensual kink and SSC which is for safe, sane, consensual. Let these principles guide you when using your toys.

RandyFox encourages you to read up and research on products and how to use them correctly. To help you with this endeavor, we have put together a list of toys, restraints and other essentials that you will need.

 California Exotic Scandal Eye Mask Blindfold

Blindfolds

Eliminating one send in the kink play heightens other senses. Putting on a blindfold during the play will make the sub more sensitive to every kiss and slap. You can pick your choice of blindfold here. You can also get creative and use things you already have as a blindfold like a silk scarf or a neck tie.

Blindfold use requires trust and strong communication skills between partners. So if you find these factors lacking, you might want to hold off on using it.

 

Mouth Gag

Another sense that you can remove is the ability to speak. Turn your sub’s screams into groans; moans to whimpers.  A mouth gag is perfect for those with oral fixations. Just make sure that you have non-verbal cues for safety.

There is a wide variety of ball gags and mouth gags to choose from. Make sure that the size is comfortable enough for your play.

 

Collars and Chokers

Collars and chokers are pieces of kinky jewelry that is a symbol of “ownership” or “dominance”.  In the BSDM community, the meaning of collar is debated in that there is not one particular meaning attached to it. It is, however, highly personal.

Typically, a collar is an overt sign of the relationship. The one that wears the collar is the Submissive and wearing the collar means the Sub is already “owned”. As such, the Sub is of limits and available for whatever play without the Dominant’s permission.

The collar can also signify as a promise ring. These types are typically never taken off. Sometimes, the collar works as a sort of wedding ring. There are even collaring ceremonies wherein Sub and Dom bind themselves as partners in life! Or it could just be a personal statement. You can read more on collars here.

In any case, collars and chokers are not only aesthetically satisfying, it gives a different kind of high. There is a wide selection of collars and chokers just for you.

 

Randy Fox - Glamour Tassel Randy Nipple And Clit Clamps

Body Clamps

Clamps offer so many possibilities for BDSM play. The body has several erogenous zones and clamps are perfect for that pleasure-pain play. It works by applying pressure and restricting blood flow which can provide both a painful and pleasurable experience.

There are many bodage clamps and body parts for clamping that you can play with – nipples, genitals, and nose to name a few.

The important thing before going ahead and using any type of clamp during play is consent. Make sure that you and your partner both know and agree that it is a toy that you want to incorporate into your play. Start simple. Maybe later on you both can move to tassels, suctions, and electro play.

 

Flogging Toys and Ticklers

A flogger is a handle with a bunch of tails at the end. The more tails a flogger has, the more thud, weight and pressure it will have when used on the body. The fewer the tails, the stingier the sensation.

A tickler is a long, thin handle with soft feathers on one end. It is perfect if you want to incorporate tickling, arousing  play especially when the Dom wants to punish their sub. Pair this toy with restrictions and you and your partner will know no bounds with your play.

Browse RandyFox for Flogging Toys & Ticklers options.

 

PipeDream Fetish Fantasy - Ultimate Bed Restraint System

Restraints

There is a wide variety of restraints that will limit your Sub’s mobility. You can opt for Ankle & Wrist Cuff Restraints for starters and then move up to Bondage Ropes & Tie Ups for more possibilities.

There are many options for restraints and many materials to choose from. Whatever you are into, RandyFox has choices you can pick.