The science of sexual attraction is complex and involves many different factors. To be attracted or to make others be attracted to you goes beyond looks. Indeed, looks do matter to men and women alike, but it is not the most important thing when it comes to finding a partner. So don’t go overboard and changing yourself to keep up with the latest fads. Embrace who you are and let Randy Fox guide you to boost your attractiveness with these scientifically proven methods.

Attraction is when is when we feel the urge to gravitate towards something or someone. There are many ways to boost your “attractiveness”. There are also many tips you can find on the internet. But if you strip it down to the very basics, it comes down to two key things: availability and confidence.

Many people do not realise that sometimes, availability is not as obvious to other people. For example, some people tend to think their flirting cues are obvious to others when it is not. You have to make your nonverbal cues obvious or other people just won’t pick up on them.

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Here are some tips you can use to show that you are available:

1. Use open body language

Body language is powerful. It usually shows even if the person doing it is unaware and it is usually felt by people surrounding you. Research on body language has shown that keeping your torso, chest, and abdomen open to the world is the best way to show availability.

In the world of dating, open body language means

  • Keeping your arms uncrossed
  • Keeping your legs uncrossed
  • Keeping the space between the two of you open (do not place a barrier between you and the other person like the coffee mug or purse)
  • Keeping hand gestures nice and open (with palms showing)

 If you are on a date and you want to know whether your date is into you, then you might be interested to ready this RandyFox Article on Clear Signs your Date is Into You. 

2. Fronting or Squaring Up

Fronting, or squaring up, is when you square up your body so you are directly facing a person. It is like saying “I am here, and you are the center of my attention.”

When fronting, there are three Ts that you have to keep in mind: toes, torso, and top (or head).

Leaning in toward someone is also a great nonverbal way of showing that person that you are engaged. This is especially great when you are with a  group of people and you are interested in a particular one. This will subconsciously “pull” them in your direction and nonverbally say, “I like you the most!”

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3. Eye Contact

Eye contact is such a powerful thing. There is a reason why they say that the eye is the jewel of the body or that eyes are the windows to the soul. When you look at the eyes of the person that you like and they stare back, oxytocin or the love hormone increases.

On first dates, you are trying to read each other. Eye contact is one good way to do that. On the other hand, shifty eye contact or too much eye contact can really make it hard for people to trust you.

Tip on doing eye contact: Prolonged eye contact should last no more than 3 seconds. During those three seconds, shift from their left eye to their right. Once 3 seconds have passed, move your eyes somewhere, think about what they said and then come back to them talking.

 

4. Do the “Wait and Smile”

You might have heard that smiling is a good thing. And it is! But when it comes to dating, there might such a thing as a little too much. The remedy? Do the wait and smile. Think of it like this: when you are always smiling, it feels as though you are always happy and cheerful­ – which is not a bad thing, mind you – but in a way, it doesn’t leave much impact for anything else., if you know what I mean.

For example, you wait to smile until you have been introduced in a conversation or are introducing yourself before smiling. Then, as you shake your acquaintance’s hand and say their name, smile broadly, as if hearing their name brought a smile to your face.

By doing this, others will feel as if their name was so appealing to you that it made you smile brightly. Others will “catch” your delight and happiness, causing a genuine ripple effect of attraction.

 

Here are some other tips that might be of help:

  • A new study has found that people are more sexually attracted to potential partners that appear to reciprocate their romantic interest.
  • "Playing it cool" is a bad idea if you are looking to attract someone.
  • People experience higher levels of sexual desire when they are confident in a partner's feelings.