RandyFox has previously featured tips to better hand jobs. This time, it is ‘everything you need   to know’ guide on going down on someone with a penis. So, on your knees people! It’s time for a lesson.

Whether you are considering giving a blow job for the first time or you just want to perfect your blow job skills, then this article is for you. Whatever the circumstance, a good oral technique will make and keep the experience enjoyable for you and your partner.

What to Expect

Before we proceed, however, let us first set expectations.

First off, everyone has a smell.

Each one of us has our own unique scent. There are many things that can affect this – from the soap that we use to the food that we eat. A quick wash is sufficient to keep things fresh. Whatever of odour is left should be fine and is natural.

Second, everyone has a taste.

Genitals and semen have a taste and it can vary from person to person. Just like everyone has a unique smell, taste can vary too. So you won’t actually know what your person tastes like until you try. If it is not to your liking or you feel like the taste is a little funky, there are things that can be done or food that can be eaten to spruce it up.

Penises come in all shapes, sizes and colours.

Not all penises are made the same. It’s all good. Obviously, circumcised penis also looks different from uncircumcised ones.

Oral sex still poses some risks.

Just because there is no penetration does not mean that sexually transmitted diseases (STDs) are not possible. There is what we call oral STDs. So, even if it is ‘just’ oral sex, don’t forget protection.

Common Questions about Giving Head

You most likely have tons of questions about blow jobs. Let us get these out of the way first.

What do I do if there is foreskin?

Just push it back. If you are starting with your hand, let the foreskin move with your hand. Then, when you are ready to move on, gently pull the skin downward to expose the head.

How do I avoid gagging?

You can avoid gagging by placing the tip of your tongue on the roof of your mouth to block your throat.

How do I know that I am doing okay?

The thing with giving head is that unless you are biting his thingy off, there is really no absolute way of messing it up. Best you can do to monitor his enjoyment is to look for nonverbal clues such as faster and heavier breathing. Another clue is when he does a thrusting motion, as if he can’t get enough of you.

If his silence makes you uncomfortable, do not be afraid to ask him.

What do I do if my mouth is tired?

Alternate your mouth and hand. When using your hands, this is also a perfect time to ask him what he wants or you can amp up the play and tell him things you are going to do to him.

Do I spit or swallow?

It really depends upon you. It is best to discuss this with your partner beforehand. It all boils down to your comfort level.

Tips on Giving the Best Head

1. 1.       Be enthusiastic.

Just like in anything that you want to do good in, the very first rule is always the same: you must want to do it. This does not mean that you have to pretend to like it even if you don’t. The thing about relationships is that it is about you and your partner. If you don’t like giving head, you should not be forced to.

On the other hand, here are a few ways you can show your enthusiasm.

• Make eye contact.

• Tell him how turned on you are.

• Ask them what they want.

1. 2.       Use your hand.

Using your hand is a great technique because whether you admit it or not, the mouth does get tired. Shift some of the work to your hand. The following are things you can try:

• Wrap your dominant hand around the shaft, and then add your mouth.

• Connect your hand to your lips. Do this by making an O sign - pressing your index finger and thumb – against your lips.

• Move your hand-lips up and down the shaft.

1. 3.       Don’t be afraid to add spit.

2. 4.       Keep your tongue soft and loose.

At least, for the most part. Keep your tongue soft in your mouth when you are moving up and down, then use the tip of your tongue to trace the head of the frenulum (the underside where the penis head (if uncircumcised) meets the shaft.

1. 5.       Don’t just stroke the penis, stroke his ego too.

The build-up to an orgasm is just as exciting and as hot as the real thing.

1. 6.       Appeal to all his sense.

Aside from the actual oral play, you can also set the mood through the other senses. A nice aroma therapy candle, his favourite perfume, or even a sexy pair of lingerie might just do the trick.

1. 7.       Don’t limit the blow job to the penis only.

There are several erogenous zones, aside from the penis, that you can play with. If you master the art of giving head while stimulating these areas, you will absolutely knock his socks off and will make him come faster than you can imagine.

• Gluteal Fold: the spot where the thigh meets the but

• Scrotum: the sac that holds the balls

• Perineum: spot between the anus and the scrotal sack

• Anus: yes, the anus! The sphincter and penis are connected to the same pleasure nerve.

• Sacrum: the triangular small of the back

1. 8.       Don’t be afraid to make it about you too.

Bringing a vibrator into the play can level up your play. Use it on yourself, holding it on one hand while you are kneeling or you can sit on the vibe or position it in such a way that your partner can see you using it. Not only will he get to enjoy the sensations of your mouth, he will also get to see the show. If you don’t have a vibe, then your hand works just as fine too!