This feature is especially written for you and your man. For you if you want to learn more about hand jobs and how to utilise it best for maximum pleasure. For him, to break the stigma on hand jobs.

Hand jobs. A perfectly normal occurrence during teenage years. As you grow older, however, hand jobs tend to have a bad rap – considered as teenager sex or as consolations for when penetrative sex is off the table. In short, it is considered settling for what you can when you can’t get what you want.

These notions could not be farther from the truth. But what are hand jobs, really?

  • Hand jobs are sex. Sex is anything that feels sexual. Your sexual interests may change over time and that is okay. But the fact of the matter is, hand jobs are about playing and manipulating the sexual organ/s for the intention of pleasure, making hand jobs sex.
  • Hand jobs are extremely intimate. When I say this, I mean when hand jobs are performed by another person. Of course this will also depend on the company because there are, after all, such a thing as disinterested hand jobs. With the right partner, however, hand jobs present an opportunity to explore and dig deep into you and your partner’s thoughts and feelings; an exploration of what arouses you and ticks you off through eye contact, dirty talk and most especially, touch.
  •  Hand jobs are versatile. Let’s face it. When the moment arises and you want to get something going, it’s not always practical to have full on penetrative sex. Hand jobs present an easier alternative.
  • Hand jobs are safe. Hand jobs is one of the safest way to have sex. No need to further explain.

 

Sooooo…. Interested on how to rev up your hand job game? Here are a few tips for you.

1.       Use lube! Lots of it.

With hand jobs, there is no such thing as too much lube. Jerking the penis when it is dry is far from pleasurable and can be painful. You might want to choose a lube that does not taste unpleasant since there is always a possibility of some mouth and tongue action later on your part.

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2.       Explore other erogenous zones.

A hand job is not just about robotically stroking the penis until it squirts. The stroking has to be catered according to what is pleasurable. Don’t be afraid to stroke his inner thigh or squeeze his butt cheeks. Run down your hands to his chest and down to his abdomen. Whisper in his ear the things you would let him do to you or what you would let him do.

If this type of exploration is new to your partner, this will also make a perfect opportunity to get to know his body.

3.       Love those balls.

Don’t neglect the balls. Some guys, admittedly, are a little skittish when it comes to their balls but including them in the handy action (or even giving them some wet kisses) can do a world of wonders. So go ahead and get in there. Fondle them, suck them.

A good trick is to get down on him with your mouth down under his balls as your man is about to finish.

4.       Use sex toys.

No shame in getting some help. After all, this is precisely why these kind of toys are made – to help out in the sex department.

Cock and ball stretchers are excellent toys to amp the sensations of a hand job. It increases the feels during the orgasm and makes the hand job itself more electric and more pleasurable.

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5.       Go slow at first.

It’s like a car, when you turn it on, you don’t immediately go at 200. Start slow and feel the strokes. Get him excited and make him ask for more, want for more. Then you go slower or faster accordingly. Take note of what you are doing when he moans a little loader or squirm a little more so you can use the same tricks again the future.

6.       Switch it up and alternate with your hands and toys.

That’s the beauty of having toys on hand. Sometimes, the hand gets a little bit tired but with toys, you don’t have to worry. Alternating will also provide a barrage of different sensations making the hand play all the more exciting.

7.       Try a little BDSM.

As you do more hand jobs with your partner later on, you can start adding a little BDSM into the mix, with emphasis on the bondage. In short, tie his ass up! With him vulnerable and at your mercy, so to speak, sense are heightened and can be a huge turn-on. Experiment together, all within consent, of course.

 

When it comes to sex and all things sexual, delving into new territory and experimenting can be a terrifying thing. But if you are both into it, it can do a world of wonders for you, for your partner, and for your relationship.