Role playing as foreplay or role playing during sex can be extremely hot, fun, and mind-blowing. Role-playing can be a huge turn-on for couples while there are some who haven’t had the opportunity to try it yet but have been thinking about giving it a go.
In this feature, Randy Fox delves further into what makes role playing so appealing as well as ideas to roll your role playing kinks into action. You may also read this Randy Fox article on Role-Playing 101 to understand the basics of role playing. Reading up on this other article might also help you get started.
Role playing in a sexual context refers to a specific bedroom dynamic in which one or both members of a couple entertain certain sexual fantasies. It might be scripted or be more spontaneous. It might also involve some dressing up. Maybe you want to play doctor and patient or teacher and student, or as strangers meeting in a bar. Yes! Role playing doesn’t have to be exclusive in the bedroom and foreplay can definitely be more creative.
Why do people role play?
Soooo… why do people role play? Mainly, role playing is one way to shake things up a bit – from new positions to new places. It is also a great way to experiment and test the limits to how freaky you can get? Who doesn’t want to get a free pass to get freaky? If you are anxious about how you might look in certain positions or you have a fantasy you have always wanted to try, then this is your chance.
Role Play Ideas
“Meeting” for the First Time
Role playing doesn’t have to be confined in the bedroom. For those just starting to explore role playing, acting as if you just met for the first time is a low maintenance way to get started – accessories and other preparation needed all up to you. Plus it’s discreet, like an exciting little secret that only you and your partner know.
Meet up at a bar and act like you don’t know each other. To take your role play to the next level, dress up differently than you usually do. You can even splurge on a wig! Make a backstory and come up with a different profession or even an entirely new character. Flirt as if you are just meeting each other for the first time. After which, discuss whose place you want to go to. Or have sex right there and then in the bathroom!
Book a Hotel/Motel Room for the Night
Sometimes, being in a place that is not your house makes a huge difference. It’s also kind of a similar concept as above. Have your partner pretend they’re an escort. You can also go through the whole escort discussion – what’s included, what’s not, etc.
Another great thing about this is that you also have the option of having breakfast in bed.
The Stripper
Admit it, all of us have this kind of fantasy in some level. And why not? The mystery, the taboo effect…it’s all so exciting. What makes it even better is the fact that with your partner in on the charade, the interaction is more sincere and meaningful.
Even if you or your partner is not quite the dancer, that’s fine. It’s the attitude and approach that is more important – a skimpy outfit and enthusiasm is all that is required.
Porn Stars
There is something hot about seeing yourself having a go at it. Should you wish to take this route though, make sure that your copy is secure and you do not give away any personal information since you know, internet and all.
Set up the scene. Remember, you are role playing. You are not just a couple doing the do in front of the camera. You are “porn stars”. So, don’t be afraid to be over-the-top with your moans and positions, and your happy endings.
There are many other ideas for role play. Other popular ones are those that involve power dynamics like professor-student, fireman/police scenarios, boss-secretary, boss-maid, etc. Imagination is the only limit. You can even switch roles like the man is the secretary, for example. The important thing is you both are comfortable and you have fun.