Talk about strap-ons and what comes to mind are images of girl on girl porn wherein one or both is wearing a harness with a dildo attached – a pretend dildo, if you will.

While strap-on porn usually involves an all-women cast (or more women in it than men), the truth is that strap-on sex is fun for anyone. It is a novelty and adds excitement to the relationship. Doing something “new” with your partner has great potential for deeper intimacy.

 

What is a strap-on?

Just so we are on the same page though, what exactly is a strap-on?

A strap-on is a two-piece sex toy that is composed of a dildo which is held in place by a harness. It is used for penetrative sex, either vaginal or anal. If a woman uses a strap-on on a man, it is called pegging.

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Why strap-ons are appealing?

Strap-on sex toys offer a different experience. It brings something new to the bedroom. It is novelty. It is a turn-on.

Randyfox asked strap-on users to get insights as to what makes these contraptions so appealing. Here are some of their answers:

  • Free hands. With strap-ons, their hands are left to do more “important” stuff – two-handed caresses, body explorations and even some ass slapping action.
  • Gender-bending experience. The use of strap-ons is not exclusive to girl on girl action. It can be fun for hetero couples too! Strap-ons invite gender-bending experience wherein women can play at being men, thrusting their hips to their heart’s content.
  • Double penetration. With strap-ons, double penetration is definitely achievable. There are even double dildo harnesses available.
  • Men can play and have fun too, allowing them to live their fantasies. For example, by using a smaller dildo for foreplay, men feel larger by comparison. Or by using a larger dildo, men can live out their well-endowed porn star fantasies.
  • Redress to health problems. Some men have erection problems. Using strap-ons is one way to address difficulties in sexual intercourse allowing couples to achieve their orgasmic high.
  • Visual treat. Strap-ons offer a different kind of excitement and a whole new level of visual treat. Let your imaginations go wild.
  • Finally, delving into the world of strap-on sex can deepen your relationship. As with anything that is new, strap-on sex requires trust and confidence in each other.

 

Myths about Strap-On Sex

It cannot be stressed enough that strap-on sex expands possibilities. It is new territory for many couples. As such, before stepping over the boundaries, it is important for couples to talk and discuss how they want to proceed.

Many hetero couples are reluctant to give strap-on play a try because of the uncertainties surrounding it. Let us pick the myths one by one and consider whether there are truths behind it.

Myth 1: Only lesbians use strap-ons.

Strap-ons are not catered to a specific sexuality. There is no exclusivity to its usage. There are, however, many types of harnesses and dildos that are specifically made for people with penises and people with vaginas.

Myth 2: Men who like to be pegged are gay.

Anal penetration or anal sex is just like any other sex, albeit a little more daring and a little more non-traditional. The anus is another orifice that can receive and give pleasure much like the penis, mouth, and vagina.

Myth 3: Women who like to enter men anally with a strap-on secretly want to be men.

Part of the allure of strap-on play is for women to play the “male” part. It is just like any other kink. Sure, some women want to be men but for the most part, people just find the play really erotic.

Myth 4: You cannot use a strap-on alone.

Generally, strap-on harnesses are meant to be worn by you or your partner so it typically involves, well, more than just you. But there are actually strap-on harnesses that is made for furniture like your bed and chair to name a few. So yes, you can use a strap-on alone.

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Strap-On Care and Cleaning

Just like any other sex toy, the care and cleaning of strap-ons – both the harness and dildo attachment – depend on the material and model of your toy. Some harnesses are made of fabric is care and cleaning is as simple as throwing them in the washing machine. But if yours is made of latex or leather, it will need special care. To be safe, it is always best to read the packaging for instructions.

As for the dildo, generally, mild soap and water will do the trick. But just like with your harness, it is recommended that you read the packaging or you can contact the manufacturer for further questions.

 

Using a strap-on does not define your sexuality or your sex life. What is important is that you have fun in the process.