What Is Bondage?

All people have vivid fantasies about sexual situations. If these fantasies evolve out of the realm of traditional sex, they most likely will wander into the world of BDSM. BDSM stands for “Bondage, Discipline, Sadism and Masochism,” or restraint plus giving and receiving sensory pleasure.

BDSM can either be explored in minimal ways, or it can become a committed lifestyle. The formal lifestyle recognition has only been around for a few decades, but the practices are as old as sex itself. Modern sexually liberated consumers and sex toy manufacturers have devised items which enhance Bondage experimentation in varying degrees.


How Do People Start Exploring Bondage?

If there is a BDSM fantasy, there are nearly limitless bondage, fetish toys and devices which help people realise those specific sexual urges. 

The first rule of bondage play is mutual consent. Solo play is a bondage niche, but the majority of acts are performed by couples and groups. Since bondage may involve degrees of anxiety, discomfort and aggression, ground rules for play must be established. Understanding each participant’s desires and boundaries is the key to achieving pleasure and effectively using bondage gear as it is designed.



What Are Bondage Roles?

When consenting partners explore their fantasies they will discover if they are more inclined to enjoy making others experience sensations, or have acts performed on them. Sadists, or “tops” prefer to dominate and have control over sexual aides. Masochists, or “bottoms” enjoy being at the mercy of someone else. An increasing number of people are discovering that taking part in both roles brings heightened levels of bondage appreciation.

Roles also determine the choice in bondage gear. Usually one person endures, and the other inflicts. Successful play is highly dependent upon intimate awareness of preferences.


Are Certain Items Required For Bondage?

No, but variety is the “spice of BDSM life!” Dressing up in leather, rubber and metal harnesses and costumes allow participants to act freely with each other. Equipping private spaces with swings, slings, restraints, slappers, crops and contoured furniture is a great way to fully imagine what type of play you and your partner would love to engage in.

Most important is the inclusion of sex toys. Depending on your chosen role, sexual practice of choice and what degree of sensation you are seeking, the types of toys and aids are important. Along with safety items like gloves, lubricants and condoms, collections of gender-mimicking toys should also be on hand.

Dildos and vibrators of different widths, lengths and materials should be part of your play. Whips and flagellation devices add to the intensity of being restrained. Masks and gags add a danger element and intensify role-play. Cockrings, nipple clamps, electro-shock paddles, butt plugs, speculums and prostate massagers should also be considered for effective BDSM play.

Always remember to research and read up on what you might be interested in. At Randy Fox, we can help guide you through your initial experimentation with BDSM, and equip your personal dungeon of pleasure with items as you learn more about the lifestyle. From toe-cuffing, to extreme pain, we have aimed at stocking a large range of Bondage items for all levels of play! Feel free to browse our bondage items and toy sections of our catalogue for an intriguing look at including a bondage element within your sex life.