With Christmas around the corner, the fellas out there might be wondering on what to get for their special lady friend. Jewellery? No, you did that last time. Candy? Whilst we all love it, it is rather high school. You can't buy her clothes, because face it, you just don't know enough about women's clothing to get the job done right. What else is there? Heck, it could well be time for a cheeky adult toy; after all, they are considered the gift that keeps giving!

Well, let's re-think that position. She may want something like a vibrator, and she may even use them regularly, but it's probably a bit over the top for a first-time sex gift. How do you work up to giving her a sexy gift? If the last gift you bought her was a toaster, chances are you're not still with her. If you are, win for you, but now it's time to move on to the next level. Now we aren't experts by any means, but we like to think that there are three phases in presenting your lovely lady with special, sexy gifts.

Phase one - Something Romantic

The first presents should be intimate but not the over-the-top "let's have sex right now" types. Think romance. Scents are sexy, and they make her feel sexy, and that's what you want. Something special like theatre tickets, or a special weekend at a five-star hotel also speaks volumes about your intentions.

Phase two - Something Sexy

Once you've presented her with a few romantic gifts, your gift-giving has shifted to a more personal space. She has come to expect something intimate and romantic, but you're ready for more. You're not quite ready for sex toys yet, but you are ready to take it to the next level. Personal, fun board games that end in sex, or some special "edible" lubricant that tastes like strawberries can become part of the scene now. Sensual Body toppings, paints and powders might also tickle your fancy. If you've enjoyed role-playing games, special "play clothes" can come into the gift-giving picture, and that naughty schoolgirl fantasy of yours may become a reality. It’s all about enjoying yourselves and being on the same page. These gifts are great because both of you get involved, and they often strengthen relationships and communication.

Phase three - Something More Interesting?

Depending on how Phase Two went, you would have now tested the waters, and seen what sort of reaction something like a sensual, edible lubricant or sexy game would get. You now have a sense for what sort of reaction something like an adult toy may provide, after all, you might just have snuck the idea into conversation by this stage. A nifty little mini vibrator or something else that gets her buzzing (pun intended) could well be the “go to gift”, now that you are more comfortable with each other. Another great idea is a couple's sex toy, such as the We-Vibe 4 (which has just hit Aussie shores) or the Lelo Tiani 2, which you can both enjoy together. Above all, enjoy yourselves and have fun with it, after all, a healthy sex life between you and your partner leads to better overall happiness, which shines through in all aspects of your life. :)