What You Need To Know About Strap-Ons

When you enter the wide, wonderful world of strap-on dildos and harnesses, you may be bewildered by the wide variety of harness designs, dildos and attachment systems. You may be a bit hesitant to “take the plunge” without a solid understanding of what you’re looking for, and you may be wondering about the best method of introducing your new toy to your partner in the bedroom. The following guide should be a great starting point regarding the wonderful world of pegging (a man being anally penetrated by a woman) and strap-on play.

Harness Styles

There are several types of strap-on harnesses on the market. The purpose of the harness is to provide a stable attachment point for the various dildos that are used with the strap-on device. Harness construction usually follows one of two designs; the “jock” type and the “thong” type. The jock-type harness is worn as a man would wear a jockstrap and allows access to the woman’s anus and vagina even when the harness is in place. In general, harnesses designed to be worn like a jock adjust to varying body size more easily than do thong-type harnesses, and the woman has more positive control of the dong attachment.

The thong-style harness is worn just as a conventional thong is worn, with the disadvantage that the anus and vagina are covered by the thong strap during sex play. On the plus side, the base of the dildo presses directly against the skin when worn in a thong-type harness. This arrangement affords the woman a great deal of control and the benefit of added clitoral stimulation.

Harnesses can be constructed of leather, nylon, rubber or plastic. Leather is the quintessential material of the dominatrix: There’s nothing hotter than seeing your woman, clad in supple leather, preparing to mount you and sporting a powerful dong. However, leather does demand some attention in order to maintain its softness and integrity; a harness made of nylon, rubber or plastic may be the most sensible choice for everyday use.

Connecting the Dong

The method of connecting your harness to the seductive dong of your choice is very important. There are several ways your harness can “mate” with the dildo of your choice. The Vac-U-Lock system, the Power-Lock system and the O-ring are the most common methods of connecting dildo to harness. An entirely different “strapless” system is also available for your pegging pleasure.

The Vac-U-Lock system consists of a harness and a patented connector plug. The unique plug mates with special hollow dongs and dildos that are also "Vac-U-Lock" compatible to create a strong, rotation resistant connection between dong and harness. This system makes your dong feel like it’s a part of you and gives you a great degree of control over your thrusting. The Power-Lock system is essentially a variation of the Vac-U-Lock system, with a plug connector that securely locks down any of a number of proprietary dongs.

Perhaps the most common method of attaching the dong to the harness is the simple O-ring system. An O-ring in general is a circular hole in which to fit dildos and dongs. Some harnesses come with an O-ring permanently affixed to the pad of the harness itself, and other models come with interchangeable O-rings to allow the wearer to choose from a variety of dong sizes. If the harness you are looking at is of the O-ring type, be sure that it has interchangeable O-rings.

Many Strap-On Dongs come made as "hollow", allowing for either partner to get the full effects. The great part about the hollow Strap-On system is that males can place their manhood into the actual dong and use the product to enhance their thrusts. 

Wrapping up our discussion of connectors is the “strapless” dong. The most sexually adventurous and erotic of the “strap-ons,” this piece is constructed to be held in place by the strong vaginal muscles of the woman herself. The Tantus Feeldoe range is an example of such a strapless device. The woman inserts one end of the device deeply into her vagina and penetrates her partner while gripping the dildo firmly within.

Using Your Strap-On

Whenever you begin to experiment with strap-on penetration, slow and steady wins the race. Once you’ve securely strapped into your harness and attached the piece of your choice, be sure that your partner is relaxed and that his or her anus/vagina is well lubricated. If both partners are female, remember that dildos do tend to be somewhat larger than life; make sure to use plenty of water-based lube for both vaginal and anal penetration.

When you’re ready to penetrate, have your partner take a deep breath, relax and bear down. Once you’re all the way inside, begin slow thrusts as the receiver becomes accustomed to the full feeling of strap-on play.

When you’re done with your fun, be sure to wash your strap-on dildo carefully before the next use.

Many erotic options exist for the strap-on lover. Different shapes and sizes of dildo provide different sensations; select a variety and have fun finding out which ones you and your partner fancy most.